I was hopelessly in love (my first ) with a Picses Man...To this day I feel that I am being haunted by the Picses..We had a very brief relationship, at the time that we met I was his Best Friends girlfriend & we the picses and I had an instant connection...My heart literally skipped a beat when we met. Within the first two weeks of being introduced, I started running into him everywhere, eventually we sat & talked together for a couple of hours discovering that we both love to paint, amongst other things and we agreed that one day he would stop by my apartment to ck out my paintings...Well, Dear Hearts, (When he came over) the air in my living room was so THICK..I could barely move through the fog that had become my body & brain...I had to ask him to leave within the first hour of him being there because It was extremely uncomfortable for me..(You know that Feeling) He was a gentleman never said anything inappropriate & when asked, he left...There was a knock at my door, a few days later, and to my surprise it was him...& at the time I was trying on a bridesmaid dress for an upcoming wedding hair & makeup fully loaded...after talking briefly we ended up dancing in my living room to one of my favorite love songs...we ended up well we ended up becoming One...over the next couple of weeks we were together a lot..I met his grandparents, he would sing to me, play the piano for me he cooked for & even taught me to play chess..I thought we had become pretty intense...But one day I called him & he told me he had a girl visiting him & he never wanted to talk with me again...Just like that!!!...I attempted to speak with him over the course of the next couple of months but he would not speak with me AT ALL...The boyfriend had found out...he said he forgave me..and wanted us to stay together but I could not and told him so...But it made no difference to the Picses that I had broken off with him, he would still have nothing to do with me...That was a lifetime ago..several years have passed.. & I finally contacted him (the picses)we emailed for a while, and at one point decided to get together, but because of complications in my life I wasn't available at the time...we would talk on the phone occasionally (once or twice a year) and one of our last conversations (this year) he told me that he was 150lbs overweight and has lost some of his front teeth...I said to him " you are frightening me with your description of yourself" .. he turned around and told me that he was Never going to meet or see me, He said "Whats the point"... and he will not speak to me to this day...Well through out my entire life..Ive felt that this man has come in and disturbed the natural order of things..I would be walking through my life without a thought of him and BAM...I would have a dream of him that was so intense that I would wake up shaking...there are some days that my body just aches for him, my eyes fill with tears because I just want to see him. I have thought about going to a psychiatrist for help because It will not go away..Am I crazy..Obssessed..This Scorpio woman thinks at times that I am going nuts..I believe myself to be very sensible and well rounded...But this little secret of mine seems to have lasted my entire life..I've heard that If both parties don't feel the Connection that you are not Soulmates..Does anyone have insight..Are soulmates real..
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Blog Backtalk » Are Soulmates Real? Help!!!
Soulmates ARE real, one of the realest things of our life. But this man does not sound like a soul mate; he sounds cruel to lead you on. Please, seek help from a pyschiatrist or religious leader as you are having an awful time recovering, my heart goes out to you. It sounds like you have a love addiction and maybe you feel unloved in another area of your life, like your family. He made you feel special like no one else did, but now he's only hurting you. There is nothing more bittersweet than lost love, I know because I longed for a Pisces guy who disappeared on me. I found out he never cared at all six months later. I am so sorry about your sadness, but his cruelty is not your fault, you have done all you can to make him realize you love him, and now it is time for you to heal. You've already taken a first step toward it by asking for help. Now ask for help from a professional or close friend. Only when you heal will you find your true soul mate and true happiness. I implore you to cut off all ties with this man, and things may have to get worse before they can get better. But everyone has the strength to heal with help from outside. Have faith. Happiness and true love will find you.
Well, first off, I believe in reincarnation so if you don't then my thoughts on this might sound wacky. Anyway, I've heard that often we are not meant to be with our soulmates during lifetimes and rarely is it an easy relationship when we meet them. Most people never meet their soulmates. Sometimes you may end up with them and everything is wonderful because you have an important lesson to learn together but usually, soulmates have different lessons and can't learn them if they are in a perfect relationship together. So, I think he is your soulmate but he has to learn a lesson during this lifetime that he couln't learn otherwise. You may have to learn a lesson about letting go and being open to different relationships. One of my best friends believes she has been with her soulmate. It was a very brief and intense relationship and then suddenly he left her. He had too many family and emotional problems filling his head and wasn't able to be in a relationship. She mourned him for a long time but now she is with someone else who makes her happy. He is not perfect. She doesn't have the same intense feelings for him that she had for her soul mate but she is happy. I think you will be happy too once you are able to let this guy go. I know it's really painful to admit and move on but it may not be meant to work out this time around. There is someone else out there who will be perefect for you this time.....maybe not a soulmate but still wonderful. Take care x
Junemoon... thank you for your reply...your right and I think that I have been making excuses for myself...believing tht the reason he doesn't want to see me is because he doesn't feel comfortable in his physical appearance.. when we were at a point of potentially getting together he asked me if I had gained weight and I answering him No..I remember him very clearly saying... What if you don't like me... "I would be so hurt if you didn't like me"... I have often wondered if he just said this to me so that I would not want to meet...And you are correct presently I do have somewhat of a void in my life..Im not in a relationship that I feel Im getting the type of Love that I want...You told me that I should cut all ties..Well PLZ Believe me that I have said that to myself So Many times & when I begin to feel that it is for the best and my heart is willing to give it up and let go...I will have a Dream a sweet dream of him, and I feel almost intruded upon by these dream because it will set me back in terms of wanting to let go of all of this..Hence me believing tht I'm going to need a little more help in this situation than I can offer myself...I wanna beleive that there is more to this than I can understand...and This SoulMate Theory is one that I need to understand more about...Thanks for your imput..
Thanks Stonyeye...So you are saying that there are SoulMates that have unfinished business..and that I should just leave it alone, Because of what ever complicated circumstance is preventing a reunion..That is to be understood..But then theres the dreams...What do they mean?... I wonder why I keep having them because they seem to keep me in the frame of mind that we should at least meet....
Yes to me they are real. Keep going and let it go he will come back to you if its meant to be. Live your life and dont let anything/anyone stop you from enjoying your time on this earth. No one said it would be easy. Relationships are challenging and you are responsible for you. If you canfind the strenght to be happy and whole all by yourself you are a bad a ss woman and if he doesnt work out other people will be drawn to you because of your inner peace and joy. Smile everyday and remember look at it like its just another day to try to be happy with yourself. Stay strong and keep your head up. I know how hard this is but practice will make it happen.
You're welcome, KittyGalore. About the dreams...well, I've found that sometimes we project aspects of ourselves to people we love, especially exes. I know I do. He's probably declaring his love for you in these dreams as you have to him in waking life. But remember...they are only dreams. Your subconscious is likely trying to fill your void. I'm so sorry if that sounds harsh, but it was that way for me.
Most people define a "soul mate" as a romantic partner who's naturally and virtually "perfectly compatible" across a range of relationship expectations, attitudes and behaviors. But, what does it mean to be perfectly compatible? If a couple is too much alike, then one of the partners is unnecessary. If a couple is too different, then there is no common foundation to build a lasting relationship.
Dynamics of the early stages of a relationship arguably boil down, in large part, to a self-fulfilling prophecy. We use this mind set in many aspects of our lives, not just our relationships. Lasting and fulfilling relationships are not grounded in physical and attraction. There are three ingredients to successful loving relationships – Friendship, Passion and Intimacy, and a conscious Decision to Commit. It takes those three legs to hold up a relationship over a lifetime. So, we have a new definition of a "soul mate," if we take and ignore what we’ve been incorrectly taught by Hollywood movies and romance novels. The new definition is this – a soul mate is some one with whom you can establish and grow Friendship, Intimacy and Commitment. It seems to take a level of similarity between a couple’s personal characteristics to do this, as well as an element of dissimilarity in their
personal characteristics. A person finds a soul mate when he or she finds some one that complements them – not completes them.
The fact is… there’s no perfect partner and no perfect relationship. You are in control of who is and isn’t a potential soul mate. All it takes effort is for you to play the field and get to know others and focus on whether they have the right recipe with you to build and maintain Friendship, Passion and Intimacy, and a conscious Decision to Commit. If there's a spark, then consider that the soul mate part. After you found such a person, it's again up to you to keep them being your soul mate. Couples in successful relationships may have started off as starry-eyed "soul mates," but they have remained together because they evolved into being work it out theorists!
No.There is no such thing as soulmate. And even if there were, that person would still be just as imperfect as the next one.
Some people sit around waiting for the right person to come along, while others are more actively in search of a potential partner. I believe that you can find a mate or a partner not only by searching but by developing your own life, by becoming an interesting person. If you're making your life interesting, I think you'll have a better chance that people will look at you and say, "I'd like to spend some time over there."
